A family system can rely on a person staying in a specific role. When a person tries to change their role, other family members may resist. This resistance can be strong and seem illogical.
By Pawan Nayar · from the LLOS AI Learning record
A family system can rely on a person staying in a specific role.
When a person tries to change their role, other family members may resist. This resistance can be strong and seem illogical.
Some families need a specific member to act like 'the child'. This role makes the family feel stable and secure. When that person tries to become more independent, it threatens the family's stability. Other family members may not want the system to change.
A student wants to move out for college. The student's parents strongly object, even though they can afford it. The parents may unconsciously need the student to stay 'the child' at home. The student's independence feels like a threat to the parents' comfort.
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A family system can rely on a person staying in a specific role. When a person tries to change their role, other family members may resist. This resistance can be strong and seem illogical.