Destructive communication patterns can be identified and changed. Specific behaviors harm relationships. Learning to recognize these behaviors helps people communicate better.
By Pawan Nayar · from the LLOS AI Learning record
Destructive communication patterns can be identified and changed.
Specific behaviors harm relationships. Learning to recognize these behaviors helps people communicate better.
There are four common destructive communication patterns. They are criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. These patterns are like 'Four Horsemen' that harm relationships. Learning to name these patterns helps people understand them. Understanding helps people change how they communicate. It makes problems feel like something that can be fixed. It is not about a personal failure.
A manager notices a team member often blames others for problems. This is criticism. The manager teaches the team member to focus on the problem, not the person. This helps the team member complain about an issue, not criticize a character.
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