A person's current feelings often connect to past family roles. These roles are like unwritten rules. When a person acts outside their old family role, they may feel uncomfortable.
By Pawan Nayar · from the LLOS AI Learning record
A person's current feelings often connect to past family roles.
These roles are like unwritten rules. When a person acts outside their old family role, they may feel uncomfortable.
People often feel like a fraud because of old family roles. These roles are like parts a person played in their family. A person might have been 'the quiet one' or 'the smart one'. When a person succeeds in a new way, they might break an old family rule. They are stepping out of their assigned family role. This can cause a feeling of being a fraud, even when they are doing well.
A student was always seen as 'the artistic one' in their family. Now, the student becomes a successful business manager. The manager might feel like a fraud. This is because the manager is acting outside their old family role of 'the artistic one'.
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A person's current feelings often connect to past family roles. These roles are like unwritten rules. When a person acts outside their old family role, they may feel uncomfortable.