Anxious attachment is a learned way to cope. It is not a personal fault. This behavior helped a person feel safe in the past.
By Pawan Nayar · from the LLOS AI Learning record
Anxious attachment is a learned way to cope.
It is not a personal fault. This behavior helped a person feel safe in the past.
Anxious attachment is a strategy learned in childhood. A child learns that staying very close to a caregiver keeps them safe. This strategy helped the child get care and attention. This behavior becomes a pattern. The pattern is predictable. It can be understood and changed. This understanding reduces shame. It makes the problem feel solvable.
A student always seeks approval from a teacher. The student feels anxious when not praised. This is an anxious attachment strategy. The student learned to merge with a caregiver to feel safe. This strategy is now outdated for the student.
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