An event has a main purpose. Every action during the event should help achieve that purpose. If an action does not help, it should be avoided.
By Pawan Nayar · from the LLOS AI Learning record
An event has a main purpose.
Every action during the event should help achieve that purpose. If an action does not help, it should be avoided.
A person should define the main purpose of an event. This purpose is the 'job' of the event. All activities and conversations should support this job. If something does not support the job, it can be postponed. This helps keep the event on track.
A family is having a birthday party for a child. The parent decides the party's job is to make the child feel special. When an argument starts about old family issues, the parent says, 'Today's job is to celebrate the child. This conversation can wait.' The argument stops, and the party stays happy.
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An event has a main purpose. Every action during the event should help achieve that purpose. If an action does not help, it should be avoided.