A person's angry words often hide a deeper need or fear. Understanding this hidden need helps another person respond with empathy. This changes a defensive reaction into a helpful one.
By Pawan Nayar · from the LLOS AI Learning record
A person's angry words often hide a deeper need or fear.
Understanding this hidden need helps another person respond with empathy. This changes a defensive reaction into a helpful one.
Angry words are often like a loud noise. Underneath this noise is a quiet need or fear. A person can learn to hear this hidden need. This helps the person understand the speaker's true feelings. Then, the person can respond with care instead of getting upset.
A student tells a teacher, 'This lesson is useless! I will never learn anything.' The teacher understands the student feels frustrated. The teacher asks, 'Are you feeling worried that you won't understand this new topic?' This question helps the student talk about their real fear.
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A person's angry words often hide a deeper need or fear. Understanding this hidden need helps another person respond with empathy. This changes a defensive reaction into a helpful one.