Grandparent favoritism towards one grandchild is often a reflection of the grandparent's unresolved relationship with their own child. The favored grandchild becomes a tool or reward in this older family dynamic. The favoritism is not about the grandchild.
By Pawan Nayar · from the LLOS AI Learning record
Grandparent favoritism towards one grandchild is often a reflection of the grandparent's unresolved relationship with their own child.
The favored grandchild becomes a tool or reward in this older family dynamic. The favoritism is not about the grandchild.
Grandparent favoritism is often not about the grandchildren themselves. It is a way for the grandparent to express feelings towards their own children. The favored grandchild might be a reward for a child the grandparent approves of. Another grandchild might be ignored because the grandparent has issues with that grandchild's parent. This behavior is a proxy war. The grandchildren are caught in the middle of old family problems.
A parent notices their child is always overlooked by a grandparent. The grandparent gives many gifts and attention to another grandchild. The parent realizes the grandparent has a difficult relationship with the parent. The grandparent has an easy relationship with the other grandchild's parent. The grandparent is using the grandchildren to show approval or disapproval of their own children.
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Grandparent favoritism towards one grandchild is often a reflection of the grandparent's unresolved relationship with their own child. The favored grandchild becomes a tool or reward in this older family dynamic. The favoritism is not about the grandchild.